How to Choose Your Battles with a Toxic Ex & Stop Being Pulled Into Every Fight
DEALING WITH THE EX
23 September 2025
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Another "emergency" text at 9 PM. Another crisis that somehow requires immediate attention. You're exhausted from fighting with her about everything she throws at you.
Today, I'll show you exactly how to choose your battles with a high conflict ex without burning yourself out in the process.
You'll discover why she creates endless conflict, and take the guesswork out of when to respond and when to let it go.
No more spending hours agonising over the "right" response. Instead, you can be strategic about where you invest your precious time and emotional energy.
Key Takeaways
Most of these "urgent" situations are designed to create conflict, not solve real problems.
Before you engage in yet another battle, ask yourself four key questions:
Is there actually a problem that requires dealing with?
Is this actually my battle to fight?
Will responding actually change anything?
What will it actually cost me?
Then make your decision strategically, based on those answers.
The goal isn't to win every battle or avoid every conflict, it's to be intentional about where you spend your precious time and emotional resources.
Mentioned in the Episode:
→ Episode 4 - When Your Partner Won’t Stand Up to Their Ex – and You’re Stuck in the Middle
→ Episode 5 – Tired of Feeling Blindsided? How to Predict Her Next Move and Stay One Step Ahead
Next Steps
If it feels like the drama comes out of nowhere:
→ This free tool helps you see it coming – so you’re not caught off guard anymore.
If you want a better way to handle her messages:
→ This free guide shows you how to respond – without making things worse.
Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, high conflict survivor and a certified coach. I help stepmums handle the sh*t that comes with the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I use them myself).