Blindsided again by your partner’s ex? What if her chaos isn’t random — but follows patterns you can actually learn to spot and prepare for?

In this episode, we dive into the emotional logic that drives high-conflict behaviour and reveal how to spot the predictable patterns behind seemingly random chaos. 

You’ll learn the telltale signs that signal an outburst is coming — and how to stay emotionally grounded when it does. 

From understanding common patterns like the "Pre-Event Blow-Up" to recognising what triggers escalation, this episode gives you the insight and tools to stop feeling caught off guard, prepare mentally, and respond strategically instead of reacting emotionally.

Whether you're in the thick of family court, navigating school emails, or just trying to enjoy a peaceful weekend — recognising these patterns is your secret weapon.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• Why high conflict behaviour feels chaotic, but is actually patterned

• The most common HCBM behaviour cycles and when they show up

• How to track and decode patterns using the "Drama Decoder"

• How real-life stepmums used this insight to detach emotionally and prepare strategically

  
  

RESOURCES MENTIONED

👉 Grab the Drama Decoder Cheat Sheet — a list of common high conflict behaviour patterns and a simple one-page tracker to help you track each blowup so you can spot the patterns behind her chaos.