4 Truths I Learned the Hard Way After 6 Years Dealing With a High Conflict Ex

Six years ago, I had no idea what I was getting myself into.

You don't know what it's like dealing with a high conflict ex until you're in it, and then you don't know what to do because no one tells you.

But here's what I've learned since then – four truths that completely changed how I handle the ex.

If you're burnt out from trying everything and getting nowhere, and you're starting to wonder if you'll ever figure this out – this episode will give you the answers you need.

I learned the hard way – but you don’t have to. 

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• High conflict people have a narrow range of patterns that they just repeat over and over again, and once you see that, you'll stop trying to figure out why she does the things she does.

• Nothing you say or do will fix her behaviour, and you can't control her, but you CAN manage her, and this requires strategy and the right tools for communication and setting boundaries.

• Not everything is a problem, and not every problem is your problem. Cut problems in half by separating the actual problem from her drama, and then decide which ones you actually need to deal with.

• It's not just about managing the ex though – you are going to have to do some work on yourself if you want to minimise the effects of the toxic ex on your life, your relationships, and your time.

  
  

RESOURCES MENTIONED

👉 The 30 Minute Reset – One text, one comment from her – and suddenly you're triggered and spiralling. The 30 Minute Reset is a simple system you can learn in one hour to shut down the spiral in 30 minutes so she doesn't hijack your whole day. 

👉 All my Tools for dealing with a High Conflict Ex