PERSONAL STRUGGLES
4 Truths I Learned the Hard Way After 6 Years Dealing With a High Conflict Ex
27 January 2026
Six years ago, I had no idea what I was getting myself into.
You don't know what it's like dealing with a high-conflict ex until you're in it, and then you don't know what to do because no one tells you.
I was exhausted.
But here's what I've learned since then – four truths that completely changed how I handle co-parenting with a toxic ex.
If you're burnt out from trying everything and getting nowhere, and you're starting to wonder if you'll ever figure this out – this episode will be the shift you need.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why high conflict people follow predictable patterns – and how understanding this will set you free.
You can't control her, but you CAN manage her, and this requires strategy and the right tools for communication and setting boundaries.
You don’t need to get involved in every problem. Cut problems in half by separating the actual problem from her drama, and then decide which ones you engage with.
Why you are going to have to do some work on yourself if you want to minimise the effects of the toxic ex on your life, your relationships, and your time.
MENTIONED
👉 The 30 Minute Reset (stop spiraling for days after she triggers you)
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).