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Why Her Drama Feels Personal - & Why It’s Not

HIGH CONFLICT EXPLAINED

10 June 2025

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That text from your partner's ex can ruin your entire day.


But what if you could change that?


When she criticises or blames you, it feels so personal – you keep trying to figure out what you've done wrong. But here's something that might change your perspective:


Her actions aren't about you at all.


In this episode, I'll show you how high conflict people distort reality and why their reactions have nothing to do with you. You’ll learn a simple mindset shift to stop internalising her behaviour and create distance from her drama.


If you’re constantly questioning yourself after another outrageous accusation or feeling like the villain in her latest story, this is just what you need to hear today.



WHAT YOU'LL LEARN


  • High conflict people run on emotional reasoning – if she feels disrespected, that feeling becomes fact in her mind, whether or not anything actually happened.

  • Long explanations rarely help, because she's not interested in understanding, she's interested in blaming.

  • High conflict behaviour isn't a reasonable reaction to something you did – it's a pattern they repeat with everyone. Seeing that pattern is what stops you taking her behaviour so personally.

  • A mindset shift to help you let it go is – "This has nothing to do with me". It doesn't mean ignoring real issues, it means no longer treating her accusations as proof of your worth.



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Hi, I'm Kellie

I'm a stepmum of two, high conflict survivor and a certified coach. I help stepmums handle the sh*t that comes with the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I use them myself).

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