HIGH CONFLICT EXPLAINED
Why Her Drama Feels Personal – & Why It’s Not
10 June 2025
That text from your partner's ex can ruin your entire day. But what if you could change that?
In this episode, I unpack why high conflict behaviour feels so personal, and share a simple mindset shift to turn it around.
I’ll break down how high conflict people distort reality and why their reactions have nothing to do with you.
You’ll learn how to stop internalising her behaviour and to create distance from her drama, without ignoring real issues.
If you’re constantly questioning yourself after another outrageous accusation or feeling like the villain in her latest story, this episode is for you.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
What emotional reasoning is, and why it drives high conflict drama
Why her attacks have nothing to do with your actions
The most common distorted thought patterns to look out for
A mindset shift to help you create emotional distance.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).