HIGH CONFLICT EXPLAINED
What to Do When the High Conflict Ex Won't be Reasonable
29 July 2025
You’ve tried being calm. You’ve tried not reacting. You’ve tried being the bigger person. But the high conflict ex just keeps being unreasonable and difficult. Every time you think maybe this time will be different, she proves you wrong – and you’re left feeling drained and discouraged.
In this episode, I break down why reasonable expectations don’t work with her – and why this keeps you trapped on an emotional rollercoaster.
You’ll learn a step-by-step process to help you recognise where your energy is being pulled into dynamics you can’t change, how to adjust your expectations so they match reality, and how to to shift your focus so your energy goes toward something that actually helps.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
Why your expectations keep getting crushed
The emotional toll of waiting for a high conflict person to change
A way to align your expectations with the reality of who you’re dealing with.
A strategy to focus your actions on what you can control.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).