FAMILY
When the Toxic Ex Won't Let Go of His Family – and You Feel Left Out
21 October 2025
You're scrolling social media and see her at your sister-in-law's house with the kids, all smiling like one big happy family. Or your mother-in-law casually mentions she had lunch with the ex because "she needed someone to talk to." And you're left thinking – she's not even part of this family anymore. Why do they still treat her like she is?
In this episode, I break down why the high conflict ex refuses to let go of his family and the specific manipulation tactics she uses to maintain control and stay relevant. I explain why his family continues to include her, and what's driving their behaviour.
But more importantly, I talk about you. About the rejection and insignificance you're feeling. About what you're making this situation mean about your worth and your place in the family. Because at the end of the day, we're all struggling with the same thing - how we FEEL.
You'll learn how to separate his family's choices from your sense of belonging, how to stop waiting for them to choose you over her, and the practical strategies you and your partner can use to protect your household without creating more conflict.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why the high conflict ex clings to his family (and the specific manipulation tactics she uses to stay connected)
Why his family allows it to happen – and why it's usually more complicated than you think
How to stop making their choices mean something about your worth and belonging
Practical containment strategies to protect your household
How to build your own independent relationships with his family without comparing yourself to her
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).