HIGH CONFLICT EXPLAINED
How to Know If You're Being Manipulated By the High Conflict Ex
9 December 2025
You walk away from a conversation with the ex and feel... confused. Guilty, even.
You know she was in the wrong. But somehow, by the end of it, you or your partner were apologising.
Did she just manipulate you? Or are you just overthinking it?
Here's the truth: if you're confused, there's a good chance you're being manipulated.
And the worst part is that you start doubting yourself. Maybe you are remembering it wrong. Maybe this really is your fault.
But it's not. And I'm going to show you what's really happening.
In this episode, I'll walk you through the five most common manipulation tactics high conflict people use, how to recognise them, and most importantly – how to stop yourself from being manipulated.
This is essential listening if you've ever felt like you're losing your mind after an interaction with her.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why high conflict people manipulate (it's about protecting their identity, not about you).
The 5 manipulation tactics high conflict people use - projection, guilt-tripping, blameshifting, gaslighting, and triangulation, and how to recognise them.
How to respond to manipulation without engaging in the drama or questioning yourself.
The most powerful thing you can do when she's trying to manipulate you.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).