PERSONAL STRUGGLES
WhyYou Feel So Frustrated All the Time
9 September 2025
You're constantly frustrated. She won't respect boundaries. He won't stand up to her. The kids walk on eggshells. Nobody does what they should do, and you're stuck feeling angry, disappointed, and resentful about it all.
Sound familiar?
In this episode, I reveal the surprising reason you feel so miserable – and it's not what you think. While you've been focused on the high conflict ex's toxic behaviour, there's something else quietly stealing your peace. It’s your "Manual” – a set of unwritten rules you have about how everyone should behave so you can be happy.
The problem? When people don't follow these rules (and they never do), you're guaranteed to feel disappointed, angry, disrespected, deflated.
I'll walk you through why these hidden expectations create so much suffering, especially when dealing with a toxic ex (who literally never does anything they’re supposed to do).
This isn't about having no boundaries or letting people treat you badly. It's about recognising that your happiness doesn't have to depend on anyone.
Take back control of how you feel, regardless of what anyone else does.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why your hidden expectations guarantee disappointment with a high conflict ex
How you're unknowingly giving her control over your emotional state
A practical process for taking it back – without needing anyone to change their behaviour.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).