The Cost of Always Being the 'Bigger Person' While the Ex Does Whatever She Wants
PERSONAL STRUGGLES
6 January 2026
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You're exhausted.
Because you're doing all the work. You manage yourself. You think before you respond. You try to stay calm when you want to scream.
And the toxic ex? She gets to do whatever she wants.
She sends nasty texts, creates chaos, manipulates the kids, and faces no consequences.
She gets away with everything.
You're carrying all the emotional weight. And she's not carrying any of it.
And it's unfair.
But that unfairness isn't the thing that's hurting you most. It's the resentment you're carrying about it. The story you keep telling yourself about how wrong this all is.
And that resentment is costing you more than you think.
In this episode, I'm going to show you what that resentment is actually stealing from you, and how to stop paying that cost.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why you're the one stuck doing all the emotional work when dealing with a high conflict ex, what that resentment is actually stealing from you, and how to stop paying that cost.
The hidden cost of resentment when dealing with a manipulative ex, and what it's stealing from your peace, relationships, and sense of self.
How to handle the unfairness of always being "the bigger person" without drowning in bitterness.
What acceptance actually means when co-parenting with a high conflict ex (and why it's not the same as giving in).
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).​