Stop Fighting About His Ex & Start Working Together With Your Partner
RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY
11 November 2025
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You've had another fight about her.
He's shut down, you're exhausted, and somewhere in the back of your mind, you're wondering if your relationship can survive this.
Every text from her becomes another argument between you. Every time you try to set a boundary, he defends her or goes silent.
Before you know it, you're fighting each other instead of fighting for each other. And slowly, the stress starts to erode what you've built.
But that doesn’t have to be your story.
This episode walks you through exactly how to build a united front with your partner so you can stop fighting about his ex and start working together to protect your relationship.
This isn't about perfection – it's about partnership.
Key Takeaways
Being on the same page doesn't mean you always agree on everything, it means you're both working toward the same thing, even when it's hard.
Firstly, figure out where your partner is at and is he willing to do this?
Have an honest conversation, and really listen, without judgement or defensiveness. Also talk about your fears. This is the time to be honest and vulnerable.
Agree on what you're working toward. Then figure out what your united front actually looks like in practice. Pick one thing you agree on to start with, and go from there.
Learn together, prepare together, acknowledge the wins and consider professional help if needed.
Every time you follow through, even when it's uncomfortable, you're building something stronger.
Next Steps
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, high conflict survivor and a certified coach. I help stepmums handle the sh*t that comes with the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I use them myself).