PERSONAL STRUGGLES
When You Keep Doubting Yourself & Wondering If You're the Problem
2 December 2025
There's this question mark that seems to follow you everywhere.
It causes you to hesitate before walking into school events. To second-guess when helping the kids with homework.
"Should I even be here?"
You didn't used to feel this way. You came into this relationship confident, ready to be part of this family.
But now you wonder if maybe the high-conflict ex is right. Maybe you are overstepping. Maybe you're not helping. Maybe they'd be better off without you.
Everyone tells you she's just jealous, that you should ignore it. But that doesn't stop the doubt,
If this is you, I'm going to show you what’s really happening. Because this doubt you're carrying? It’s not about you. And I'm going to teach you how to finally put it down.
This is a must listen episode if you ever doubt your role in this family.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why the high conflict ex target you (and why it has nothing to do with what you've actually done)
How her accusations have become your beliefs – and the brain science behind why this happens
A 4-step framework to recognize when you're believing her narrative instead of your own truth
Why the fact that you're doubting yourself is actually evidence you belong
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).