BOUNDARIES
When You Want to Set Boundaries But You're Terrified of How She’ll React
25 August 2025
You're lying awake at 2 AM, running through every possible thing she could do if you upset her.
You and your partner give in to ridiculous demands because the fear of what the high conflict might do feels scarier than just putting up with her current chaos. So you calculate every move and basically live your life trying not to trigger her.
And the exhaustion of constantly managing her emotions is crushing you.
But what if all this careful tiptoeing is actually making you more vulnerable, not less?
In this episode, I'll show you why your current strategy of avoiding her triggers isn't protecting your family.
You'll discover what's really happening when you live in constant fear of her next move, and why giving in to prevent drama actually makes the situation worse over time. I'll walk you through how to prepare for her worst-case scenarios and what to do if she follows through on threats.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why avoiding her triggers to "keep the peace" actually makes you more vulnerable to her control
How to create a protection plan before setting boundaries
A step-by-step plan for when she actually follows through on threats
How to build resilience and stop letting fear of escalation control your family's decisions
RESOURCES MENTIONED
👉 Grab my FREE Escalation-Proof Boundary Planner, so you can set your first boundary TODAY and know exactly what to do when she pushes back.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).