COMMUNICATION
How to Respond to Her Toxic Messages
24 June 2025
Have you ever found yourself staring at your phone, heart racing, as you try to craft the "perfect" response to a message from her?
In this episode, I'm breaking down a five-step plan that helps you respond to high conflict people without getting emotionally hooked.
You’ll learn how to respond (or not respond) to toxic messages calmly and confidently, without over-explaining, overthinking, or fuelling the conflict.
Because when you’re co-parenting with a narcissistic or manipulative ex, traditional communication rules just don’t work. But with the right tools, you can step out of the drama completely.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why reasonable responses don’t work with high conflict people
How to edit a chaotic message to get to what actually matters
How to know when to respond – and when not to
How to reset your nervous system before responding
How to actually respond to a high conflict message in a way that keeps you out of the drama
RESOURCES MENTIONED
👉 FREE GUIDE DOWNLOAD
Grab your copy of How to Communicate with a High Conflict Ex – You don’t need to get stuck in conversations that always seem to escalate. Stay calm (no matter what she sends) with this 5-step communication framework + 10 copy-paste replies.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).