When You've Lost Yourself in All the Drama and Don't Know How to Get Out
PERSONAL STRUGGLES
10 February 2026
When was the last time you did something that had nothing to do with her?
Something that was just yours. Not about managing the kids. Not about your partner's stress. Not about the next court date or the latest text.
Maybe you can't even remember.
Because right now, dealing with a high conflict ex takes up everything. Your time. Your energy. Your thoughts. Your conversations.
And without even realising it, the things you used to care about have disappeared. Your goals. Your friendships. The parts of yourself that felt alive.
You tell yourself, "Once things calm down, then I'll have time." But things never calm down with a toxic ex. The drama just keeps coming.
And meanwhile, you're stuck. Waiting. Putting your whole life on hold.
Today, I want to show you how to make your life bigger than this problem – so she becomes what she actually is. A minor, irritating part of your life that doesn't get to take over everything else.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why you feel stuck in survival mode – and the "waiting room trap" that keeps you there
How dealing with a toxic ex slowly takes over your entire life without you realising it
The Life Audit: three questions to see clearly how much space she's actually taking up and where you can get it back.
How to start reclaiming your life right now – without waiting for this toxic co-parenting drama to end first
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).