PERSONAL STRUGGLES
When You’re Losing Hope That Things Will Get Better
3 February 2026
You didn't know it was going to be like this.
When you started this relationship, you thought the drama with the high conflict ex would settle down. That co-parenting would get easier. That eventually, you and your partner could just enjoy your relationship without it being sabotaged all the time. Where weekends were peaceful. Where holidays were simple.
But here you are – 1 year in, maybe 2 or 3, maybe even more – and you're still waiting for that future to arrive.
And now the reality is starting to sink in. This might not change. It might always be like this.
And the thought of that can leave you feeling exhausted, numb, and maybe even questioning everything.
If that's where you are right now, this episode talks to you about what's really going on with you. And the way to get through this.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why accepting that she'll never change doesn't bring relief at first – and what that heavy feeling actually is.
The real reason you feel so exhausted even when "nothing's happening" – and why staying busy isn't helping.
How to allow yourself to feel what you've been pushing down so you can finally move forward from truth, not hope.
What's waiting for you on the other side when you stop resisting reality and start processing it.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).