How to Win Against a High Conflict Ex in Family Court
LEGAL
10 March 2026
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You've watched it happen. She walks into that hearing confident, emotional, compelling – and somehow, she's believable, even when pretty much everything she says is false.
Meanwhile, your partner walks in with the truth. And the truth should be enough, right?
It's not. Not when you're up against a high conflict ex.
And here's why. High conflict people are skilled at presenting their case. They know exactly the impression they want to leave. And unless your partner knows how to do the same thing, the ex is going to keep winning.
And in order to get the outcome you want, you need a strategy. Today, I'm going to show you what that is.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why being truthful isn't enough in a high conflict family court case – and what to do instead
How to organise your case so a judge can see the real story quickly
How to present false allegations without looking defensive, so the judge sees the pattern of bad behaviour
Why naming the pattern of bad behaviour changes everything about how individual incidents are seen in family court
RESOURCES MENTIONED
This episode draws on material from the High Conflict Institute training "Writing for Court – 10 Tips for Persuading Decision Makers".
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).