How to Finally Step Back from the Drama - And Stay There (Part 3/3)
TAKING YOUR LIFE BACK
26 April 2026
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There's a difference between deciding to step back and actually being able to stay there.
From the kind of stepping back where you decide to stop doing something but inside you're still fuming... to the kind where you can actually step back, without the resentment or guilt.
This is part 3 of my series on disengaging from the drama – and this is the episode that takes you from I've tried stepping back and it never works to "I finally know how to step back and stay there."
Key Takeaways
Deciding to step back isn't enough on its own – the thought driving the behaviour has to change too
Your brain defaults to familiar thought patterns which may not be serving you – but you can deliberately change that
A new thought only works if you actually believe it – find something real, not just something positive
Practice is what makes the thought stick – it won't feel natural straight away, and that's okay
Once the new thought becomes the default thought, stepping back and staying there will be much easier
Next Steps
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, high conflict survivor and a certified coach. I help stepmums handle the sh*t that comes with the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I use them myself).