How to Finally Step Back from the Drama - And Stay There (Part 3/3)

There's a difference between deciding to step back and actually being able to stay there.

From the kind of stepping back where you decide to stop doing something but inside you're still fuming... to the kind where you can actually step back, without the resentment or guilt.

This is part 3 of my series on disengaging from the drama – and this is the episode that takes you from "I've tried stepping back and it never works" to "I finally know how to step back and stay there."

KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR STEPMUMS

• Deciding to step back isn't enough on its own – the thought driving the behaviour has to change too

• Your brain defaults to familiar thought patterns which may not be serving you – but you can deliberately change that

• A new thought only works if you actually believe it – find something real, not just something positive

• Practice is what makes the thought stick – it won't feel natural straight away, and that's okay

• Once the new thought becomes the default thought, stepping back and staying there will be much easier