Is the Ex High Conflict or Just Difficult? How to Know the Difference
HIGH CONFLICT EXPLAINED
2 September 2025
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She's nice to you at the school concert, then sends a toxic text that same night.
You're left wondering – is the ex really high conflict? Maybe she just had a bad night. Maybe you're imagining things. Maybe you're the problem.
If you've been questioning whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you need.
You'll learn the behaviours that high conflict people can't help but repeat – always blaming others, seeing everything in black and white, having emotional reactions that don't match the situation, and doing things most people would never do.
I walk through real scenarios that show the difference between someone who's difficult and someone who's truly high conflict. Because when you know what you're dealing with, everything changes.
Trying to co-parent normally with a high conflict person doesn't just fail – it makes things worse. But once you see the patterns clearly, you can stop wondering if you're crazy and start using strategies that actually work.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
The four key behaviours that reveal high conflict patterns, and how these play out in real-life situations
How she can be high conflict and still seem reasonable sometimes
How to identify if she’s high conflict of just difficult
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).