PERSONAL STRUGGLES
What to Do When You Hate the Ex – and Resent Who You’ve Become
12 August 2025
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by resentment toward your partner’s high conflict ex – and then guilty for feeling that way?
In this powerful episode, I unpack one of the most uncomfortable and unspoken truths in high conflict stepfamily life – sometimes, you just hate her. For the way she disrupts everything. Because you even have to think about her.
And you hate what this is doing to you.
I explore how to understand this hate – and how to stop it from taking over your life. This episode offers deep emotional validation and a practical path forward.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
Why your feelings of hate are normal – and what they’re actually telling you
A way to move through these feelings without guilt or shame
A powerful framework to help you reclaim emotional control
RESOURCES MENTIONED
👉 The Model by The Life Coach School
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).