PERSONAL STRUGGLES
How to Stop Reacting to the Ex's Manipulation
16 December 2025
Imagine the ex tries to manipulate you, and you just... don't react.
Instead, you just go about your day. She has no power over you.
Sounds nice, right?
But that's not what's happening.
What's actually happening is this – she says something and immediately you're frustrated. You start explaining. Defending. She comes back with something ridiculous. Now you're angry.
And the cycle continues.
Here's why you can't seem to stop – you're trying to force yourself to stay calm while your brain is screaming at you to defend yourself. That's exhausting. And it doesn't work.
In this episode, I'm showing you the one shift that makes it possible to genuinely not react to her manipulation – so you can finally break the cycle.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
Why ‘gray rocking’ works with high conflict people, but also why it feels impossible to do.
The one shaft that makes it actually work.
How to stop reacting when she tries to manipulate you.
How to stay genuinely calm instead of forcing yourself to act calm.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).