HIGH CONFLICT EXPLAINED
When the Ex Withholds Information About the Kids
20 January 2026
She didn't tell him about the doctor's appointment. Again.
Or the school event. Or the medication change. Or the parent-teacher conference.
And now your partner's calling the school, the pharmacy, trying to piece together what's happening with his own child.
You've watched this play out so many times.
And here's what makes it so frustrating – he keeps trying to get her to communicate like a reasonable person. But it never works.
Because when you're dealing with a high conflict bio mom, this isn't about poor communication. It's about control.
Today I'll show you what's really happening when she withholds information, and what you and your partner can do to stop the cycle.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
The six tactics high conflict people use to withhold information – and how to spot the pattern.
Why chasing her for information keeps you stuck in a reactive cycle with a manipulative ex
The strategy that removes her leverage – so your partner can stay informed and parent effectively without needing her cooperation
How to support your partner through this
MENTIONED
👉 Episode 23: How to How to Support Your Partner Through Toxic Co-parenting Without Burning Out
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).