FAMILY
How to Stop the Ex From Ruining Your Relationship
18 November 2025
Does it feel like your entire relationship revolves around your partner's high conflict ex?
You sit down for dinner and within minutes, you're talking about something she said. You're trying to have a quiet morning and her name comes up. You want to relax together but there's tension because of what happened with her earlier.
She's not even there. But she's everywhere.
Because when you're dealing with a toxic ex, your entire relationship can become about managing her drama. Every conversation turns into problem-solving. Every evening risks getting hijacked. And you can't actually relax because there's no safe space from her.
And this isn't just exhausting – it actively erodes your relationship.
This episode shows you how to reclaim the space she's occupying – in your conversations, your time together, your home, and how to create spaces where she doesn't get to exist at all.
By the end, you’ll know how to ex-proof your relationship so it's actually about you and your partner again.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why the high conflict ex takes up so much space in your relationship and how it's damaging your connection.
Three strategies to ex-proof your relationship.
How to stop her from dominating your conversations.
How to create ex-free zones and connection rituals that protect your relationship from her drama.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).