PERSONAL STRUGGLES
Feel Like She's Always Winning? How to Beat the Ex By Changing the Game
28 October 2025
It feels like she's winning, doesn't it? Every time she ignores your boundaries, lies and people believe her, or gets away with something – it feels like she's winning and you're losing.
But what if that idea of winning versus losing is actually keeping you trapped in her game?
In this episode, I break down why focusing on not letting her "get away with it" means you're accidentally sacrificing the very things you're trying to protect – your peace, your relationship, and your family's happiness. Because every time you engage with her drama, you're playing her game and giving her exactly what she wants.
I'll show you how to redefine what winning actually means when you're dealing with a high conflict ex, and why the real win is denying her what she craves: control, attention, and relevance. You'll discover how to shift from victim mode to empowered mode by changing the entire game so you're no longer playing by her rules.
This isn't about letting her get away with things or ignoring real problems. It's about making a conscious choice to focus your energy on building the life you actually want while she's busy being destructive.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why engaging with a high conflict ex's drama means she wins – and what to do instead
The mindset shift that takes you from reactive to responsive and from victim mode to empowered mode
How to create a version of winning that protects what matters most to you
NEXT STEPS
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).