Feel Like She's Always Winning? How to Beat the Ex By Changing the Game

It feels like she's winning, doesn't it? Every time she ignores your boundaries, every time she gets away with something – it feels like she’s winning and you're losing.

But what if that idea of winning versus losing is keeping you trapped in her game?

The problem is that you're so focused on not letting her "get away with" it that you're accidentally sacrificing the very things you're trying to protect – your peace, your relationship, your goals, and your family's happiness.

Because every time you engage with her drama – to defend yourself, to try prove she's wrong or earn her respect, you're playing her game. You’re giving her exactly what she wants. 

In this episode, I'll show you the secret to winning against a high conflict ex – how to change the game so you're no longer playing by her rules. 

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• You will never win a conflict with her. High conflict people are great at conflict, that's what they do.

• Engaging with her drama to try to win or prove her wrong is actually giving her exactly what she wants.

• A win is not getting her to admit she's wrong, the real win is denying her what she actually wants – control, attention, relevance and importance.

• You're actually already winning. Your partner is with you. You're building a life together. That's already yours.

• Define what winning actually means to you, write it down, and remind yourself of it when you feel the pull to engage.

• The only game worth playing is the one where you build the life you actually want.

NEXT STEPS

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