Should You Respond or Ignore Her? Your High Conflict Communication Questions Answered
COMMUNICATION
2 April 2026
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You already know you shouldn't react to her. But understanding that and actually doing it in the moment are two very different things.
In this Q&A episode, I'm answering real communication questions from stepmums dealing with a high conflict ex:
She sent accusations I had nothing to do with. I didn't respond – did I do the right thing?
If I don't defend myself, won't she just think she's right?
Every time I ignore her, she gets worse. What am I doing wrong?
She keeps threatening to take it to her lawyer. Do I have to respond?
How do I actually stay calm when she sends something awful?
After I respond, I can't stop going over it in my head. How do I let it go?
I've changed how I respond but my partner still reacts to everything. How do I get him on board?
These are the exact situations stepmums deal with every day – and what to actually do in each one.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).