COMMUNICATION
The 5 Communication Mistakes That Are Keeping You Stuck in Her Drama
17 June 2025
Ever wonder why your reasonable responses to your partner's ex seem to make things worse?
In this episode, I break down the five biggest communication mistakes stepmums make when dealing with the high conflict ex:
Trying to make her see reason
Engaging in emotional battles
Over-explaining
Getting trapped in past issues
Labelling her behaviour
You'll discover why these well-intentioned approaches backfire and set you up for endless drama.
By the end, you’ll be able to stop exhausting yourself with strategies that never work, and instead find new ways that do.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why logical explanations fall on deaf ears
How emotional reactions give them ammunition to use against you
The dangerous backfire effect of labeling their behavior
Why over-explaining keeps you trapped in their drama
RESOURCES MENTIONED
👉 FREE GUIDE DOWNLOAD
Grab your copy of How to Communicate with a High Conflict Ex – You don’t need to get stuck in conversations that always seem to escalate. Stay calm (no matter what she sends) with this 5-step communication framework + 10 copy-paste replies.
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Hi, I'm Kellie
I'm a stepmum of two, a high conflict survivor and a certified coach. My mission is to help stepmums (and stepmoms) like you handle the ex, with no-BS strategies that actually work (I know because I've used them myself).